Navigating the Change essay contest: body positivity

Did you know I have an article posted in Navigating the Change, called Digestive Health in Midlife?

Navigating the Change is a website designed and launched by KE Garland.

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Midlife and cosmetics: the Botox dilemma (part 2)

Remember this post where I admitted my struggle to shape my eyebrows since my teen years? I left a little cliffhanger at the end, where my beautician Eva uttered a single word. 😛

Here are the final few paragraphs of that post, and the continuation of what happened next.

One day well into my late 40s, I asked Eva what she can recommend to hide some irksome wrinkles between my brows. Was there a type of make-up I could use that would minimize this self-perceived flaw that had bothered me for as long as I had been plucking my own eyebrows? That’s a lot of years of constant zooming in on that one point in my face. The wrinkles resembled a scar (I don’t even know if it is a scar, or if it is, how I got it) and I became increasingly self-conscious about it as I aged.

In fact, this scar/wrinkle was, at one time, the reason I desired bangs. (Never ever again.)

Eva had me lie back on her table and inspected my upper face under a bright light with a magnifying mirror.

Then, she said one word:

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Old and ugly

Something has been percolating in my brain for a while, but I couldn’t find the words to talk about it on a public forum until today. Perhaps I will find the words if I simply type them into the keyboard.

It began with a syndicated episode of The Big Bang Theory. I see the scene in front of me but I can’t find it when I google it. It’s not so much the scene that made an impression anyway, it’s the phrase.

This is how I remember it (paraphrased):

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Women’s bodies, sexuality and the stigma of menstruation

Disclaimer: this is a straight-forward, blunt, personal perspective about women and periods. If you’re squeamish about these things I encourage you to get over it and read it anyway. Looking forward to respectful and thoughtful, contributing comments. Let’s talk about this and take away the stigma of menstruation.

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Ladies, do you remember the circumstances of your first period?

What about you men, do you remember when your sisters started…? Or your daughters?

I don’t remember much, other than the usual sentiments of discomfort, anxiety about leaks, and how unfair it was to have to go through this crap for the next 40+ years.

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Emotional ebb and flow of life

Everything is temporary.

A wise person said this once but it escapes me now where I read it.

It’s true though, don’t you think? Be it euphoric joy or debilitating depression, we pass through these sets of emotions and emerge with a fresh perspective. Maybe a new outlook. Definitely with accumulated life experience.

It’s the latter that defines us, characterizes us as the individuals we are today.

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Letting (her/yourself) go

Disclaimer: I understand that many/most people have bigger fish to fry while the world is falling apart than to sit and contemplate this vanity-induced post here, so if you do comment, please be kind (but still honest) – I have no qualms blocking anyone if you attack or put down someone’s opinion on my blog.

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Once upon a time when I was young and stupid, I dated some people I shouldn’t have.

Recently, I reflected on some comments one of them made, that have me irked. (sorry not sorry)

Here’s one that surfaced today: Continue reading “Letting (her/yourself) go”

The GenX experience at Victoria Secret

Disclaimer: if you shop, and like to shop, and can afford to shop at this store, and happen to be of GenX age, by all means, all the power to you. I am describing an experience I had personally and mean no offense to any snowflakes. Proceed with caution. Trolls, negativity, insults or attacks will be deleted and blocked.

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Two weeks ago I ventured into a Victoria’s Secret for the first time in at least 25 years. Continue reading “The GenX experience at Victoria Secret”