There are numerous influencers, professionals and every day ordinary folk who aim to teach us about the Law of Attraction, manifestation and similar hocus-pocus.
Do you believe you can create your own reality? Do you believe in manifestation?
It’s an interesting concept that stems from this idea:
Actually, it’s a little more complicated than that. Or maybe it’s not complicated at all. What I do know is that they have science now about this topic. Neurological science, with brain scans and things…
I’m going to talk about this a little…
Reminder: I’m neither a neurologist nor an expert or guru or some other authoritative figure. My capacity to understand the brain, the subconscious mind and quantum physics is limited to my current state of mind which is a bit of a hot mess at the moment, truth be told.
Sorry not sorry.
The subject however intrigues me. So let’s begin:
When you’re feeling down and depressed, your body oozes this sentiment in your physical being. Depression feels like pain, right? You don’t smile, your posture is off, your disposition to the outside world displays an unhappy, discontent person. The people in your orbit will now have a choice when they look at you:
- Run the other way to avoid coming into contact with your sadness or negativity
- Take pity on you and give you a hug, or offer support and love (and then run the other way to get away from you)
But what about you? Do you want to continue to reside in this state?
I learned something during my research into these neurological studies:
The key to changing your disposition lies within your grasp.
In fact, you are the only one who is in control of your emotions, complicated as that may sound.
To illustrate, I have a simple example I borrowed from a situation I encountered with one of my kids the other week. Consider this:
Have you ever asked yourself why you react to similar circumstances the same way each time they happen?
Say you normally do relatively well on math tests.
Last week, you receive a low grade on a math test. Immediately, you react with shock, disbelief and similar sentiments.
- I should have studied more
- I’m not good at math
- I always freeze when I have to write a test
- I hate math
I understand now why this happens. It actually makes perfect sense to me, but my neurological terminology isn’t quite at the advanced level of some of these medical experts, so you’ll just have to read my layman’s terms and draw your own conclusions.
The power of the subconscious mind
Your subconscious mind resides within your brain. Everything you’ve ever known or will know is stored withing your subconscious.
What’s more, everything you do on a daily basis is controlled by your subconscious mind. We like to think that we are in control, but it’s really the subconscious mind that is in control.
Because everything you’ve ever done or thought about is stored in your mind.
Everything you’ve ever done or thought about has a reaction and an emotion attached to it.
You have a go-to reaction or emotion for every event of a similar nature.
Look at it this way:
When you wrote your first math test in grade 1, you got an A. You wrote numerous other math tests and you either got As or Bs. One day in grade 3, you got a C on a math test. You freaked out, you cried, you told yourself you must be bad at math, and you decided you don’t like math and you’re not good at it.
The patterns of earning a high grade in math has been broken. The lower than expected grade became a traumatic event, a trigger.
Somehow you made it through primary school and then entered high school. You did well enough in math, maybe even earned mostly As. One day you wrote a grade 9 math quiz. When you saw the 67%, another C, you entered a state of disbelief and shock.
The mark surprised you. You knew the concepts, you practiced, you understood this portion of the math lesson, but here you were with a C instead of the expected A.
How id you react?
Here’s what your subconscious brain does:
It goes looking for the stored memory of the first time you earned a C on a math test. It computes the various reactions and emotions and creates a neat little package. It sends this neat little package of data as a signal to your body in which it tells you exactly what to do, how to react, how to feel:
You are terrible at math. This happened before and will again. Cry and give up. You don’t like math anyway.
Your subconscious brain dictates your reaction based on the stored memory of a similar event you experienced previously.
But that’s not all. It gets worse.
Overthinking and imagining worst-case scenarios
Let’s say you haven’t written the math test yet. You’re studying and practicing, working hard at remembering the lessons. But every time you look at the practice test you’re working on, you feel anxiety rising in your body.
Why are you anxious? You haven’t even written the test yet…
Your subconscious brain does not differentiate between an actual event and an imagined one.
Your brain is not that smart. (ha)
Your brain is a computer. It’s a filter. It acts not unlike a dating app algorithm and looks for data it can disseminate and compute in order to dictate to you how to feel and act.
As far as the brain is concerned, as far as your subconscious mind is concerned, the information it collected from your stored memories tells you what to do in the event you receive a bad mark. Even though you haven’t even written the test yet.
Essentially, you have created the future outcome of another C on a math test when you listen to your subconscious mind.
Nuts, right? Makes you re-think the whole overthinking things we tend to do…
Example from the blogging community
I recently read a blog post from Deb who had to reconnect with an ex-husband for reasons to do with grandchildren. She felt triggered by his appearance in her space based on the decades of trouble she had with him. Maybe he’s changed, maybe not, it’s irrelevant. What’s relevant is how Deb reacted to the trigger of her ex showing up (with fish. 😀 ) (What is it with men and fish?)
Deb: to counteract the anxiety of seeing him, you have to train your brain away from the expected reaction and re-write, or re-wire a new reaction.
If you can find a way to make yourself feel neutral whenever he shows up, then you will have succeeded in manifesting your desired outcome – to not feel the old emotions when he shows up.
Rewiring your brain takes time. It’s not as hard as it sounds, but it does take practice, focus and diligence. It works for numerous triggers, from food to addiction, from codependency to heartbreak.
There are multiple people online who talk about this. I take most of the videos with a grain of salt, apply what resonates, leave what doesn’t. I tie it in with my tarot cards, manifestation and the Law of Attraction. (more on this later)
Thank you for reading my post. As always, I look forward to the comments.