The power of your subconscious mind

There are numerous influencers, professionals and every day ordinary folk who aim to teach us about the Law of Attraction, manifestation and similar hocus-pocus.

Do you believe you can create your own reality? Do you believe in manifestation?

It’s an interesting concept that stems from this idea:

How you think is how you act which in turn is how you feel.

Actually, it’s a little more complicated than that. Or maybe it’s not complicated at all. What I do know is that they have science now about this topic. Neurological science, with brain scans and things…

I’m going to talk about this a little…

Reminder: I’m neither a neurologist nor an expert or guru or some other authoritative figure. My capacity to understand the brain, the subconscious mind and quantum physics is limited to my current state of mind which is a bit of a hot mess at the moment, truth be told.

Sorry not sorry.

The subject however intrigues me. So let’s begin:

When you’re feeling down and depressed, your body oozes this sentiment in your physical being. Depression feels like pain, right? You don’t smile, your posture is off, your disposition to the outside world displays an unhappy, discontent person. The people in your orbit will now have a choice when they look at you:

  1. Run the other way to avoid coming into contact with your sadness or negativity
  2. Take pity on you and give you a hug, or offer support and love (and then run the other way to get away from you)

But what about you? Do you want to continue to reside in this state?

I learned something during my research into these neurological studies:

The key to changing your disposition lies within your grasp.

In fact, you are the only one who is in control of your emotions, complicated as that may sound.

To illustrate, I have a simple example I borrowed from a situation I encountered with one of my kids the other week. Consider this:

Have you ever asked yourself why you react to similar circumstances the same way each time they happen?

Say you normally do relatively well on math tests.

Last week, you receive a low grade on a math test. Immediately, you react with shock, disbelief and similar sentiments.

  • I should have studied more
  • I’m not good at math
  • I always freeze when I have to write a test
  • I hate math

I understand now why this happens. It actually makes perfect sense to me, but my neurological terminology isn’t quite at the advanced level of some of these medical experts, so you’ll just have to read my layman’s terms and draw your own conclusions.

The power of the subconscious mind

Your subconscious mind resides within your brain. Everything you’ve ever known or will know is stored withing your subconscious.

What’s more, everything you do on a daily basis is controlled by your subconscious mind. We like to think that we are in control, but it’s really the subconscious mind that is in control.

How?

Because everything you’ve ever done or thought about is stored in your mind.

Everything you’ve ever done or thought about has a reaction and an emotion attached to it.

When something occurs in your life, or when you think a certain thought, your subconscious mind goes looking for how you reacted or felt the last time a similar event occurred in order to tell you how to act or feel.

You have a go-to reaction or emotion for every event of a similar nature.

Look at it this way:

When you wrote your first math test in grade 1, you got an A. You wrote numerous other math tests and you either got As or Bs. One day in grade 3, you got a C on a math test. You freaked out, you cried, you told yourself you must be bad at math, and you decided you don’t like math and you’re not good at it.

The patterns of earning a high grade in math has been broken. The lower than expected grade became a traumatic event, a trigger.

Somehow you made it through primary school and then entered high school. You did well enough in math, maybe even earned mostly As. One day you wrote a grade 9 math quiz. When you saw the 67%, another C, you entered a state of disbelief and shock.

The mark surprised you. You knew the concepts, you practiced, you understood this portion of the math lesson, but here you were with a C instead of the expected A.

How id you react?

Here’s what your subconscious brain does:

It goes looking for the stored memory of the first time you earned a C on a math test. It computes the various reactions and emotions and creates a neat little package. It sends this neat little package of data as a signal to your body in which it tells you exactly what to do, how to react, how to feel:

You are terrible at math. This happened before and will again. Cry and give up. You don’t like math anyway.

Your subconscious brain dictates your reaction based on the stored memory of a similar event you experienced previously.

But that’s not all. It gets worse.

Overthinking and imagining worst-case scenarios

Let’s say you haven’t written the math test yet. You’re studying and practicing, working hard at remembering the lessons. But every time you look at the practice test you’re working on, you feel anxiety rising in your body.

Why are you anxious? You haven’t even written the test yet…

Your subconscious brain does not differentiate between an actual event and an imagined one.

Your brain is not that smart. (ha)

Your brain is a computer. It’s a filter. It acts not unlike a dating app algorithm and looks for data it can disseminate and compute in order to dictate to you how to feel and act.

Your brain doesn’t care that the event is still in your head, that it hasn’t happened yet.

As far as the brain is concerned, as far as your subconscious mind is concerned, the information it collected from your stored memories tells you what to do in the event you receive a bad mark. Even though you haven’t even written the test yet.

Essentially, you have created the future outcome of another C on a math test when you listen to your subconscious mind.

Nuts, right? Makes you re-think the whole overthinking things we tend to do…

Reminder:

I realize this is controversial. You don’t have to agree with me.

Keep the comments polite to encourage debate and dialogue.

Claudette, Writer of Words etc

Example from the blogging community

I recently read a blog post from Deb who had to reconnect with an ex-husband for reasons to do with grandchildren. She felt triggered by his appearance in her space based on the decades of trouble she had with him. Maybe he’s changed, maybe not, it’s irrelevant. What’s relevant is how Deb reacted to the trigger of her ex showing up (with fish. 😀 ) (What is it with men and fish?)

Deb: to counteract the anxiety of seeing him, you have to train your brain away from the expected reaction and re-write, or re-wire a new reaction.

If you can find a way to make yourself feel neutral whenever he shows up, then you will have succeeded in manifesting your desired outcome – to not feel the old emotions when he shows up.

Rewiring your brain takes time. It’s not as hard as it sounds, but it does take practice, focus and diligence. It works for numerous triggers, from food to addiction, from codependency to heartbreak.

There are multiple people online who talk about this. I take most of the videos with a grain of salt, apply what resonates, leave what doesn’t. I tie it in with my tarot cards, manifestation and the Law of Attraction. (more on this later)

Thank you for reading my post. As always, I look forward to the comments.

39 thoughts on “The power of your subconscious mind

  1. I totally do not believe in Manifesting. From what I’ve seen, ‘manifesting’ something like weight loss happens in the conscious mind while the unconscious mind uses food to soothe past trauma. My experience is that it is “easier to act your way towards a new way of thinking than it is to think your way into a new way of acting”.
    The philosophy of Stoicism is probably making a comeback because people realize that the problems you spoke about in the blog post are not new and have been pondered on for centuries.
    It might be better to cultivate a mind that delivers happiness through routines that improve our mental health.
    https://www.writingsofamidlifeman.com/2021/01/31/how-to-grow-a-garden-of-the-mind/

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    1. Exactly, the word default is key. I struggle with this daily but I’m getting better at pushing back the default and choosing new, better, or even neutral.

      Thank you for commenting, I appreciate seeing a new face in my post! Nice to meet you.

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  2. This is interesting. Math was never my strong subject in high school. I got a D in geometry, and that was with a very steep curve. So, when I had to take a math placement test for college, I was shocked when I scored in the upper percentile. That would seem to run counter to what you’ve written here, though I do believe in everything you’ve said.

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    1. What it means is the bad marks in math didn’t store in your brain as a dominant negative effect. For people with anxiety, like my kid, that one mark many years ago threw her for a loop and she couldn’t cope. Her subconscious stored that dominant reaction and draws on it now every time she writes a math test. And what’s worse, when she preps for a math test.

      For her the bad mark carries a lot more weight than yours did. That’s the key difference. You have a better grasp on balancing out the good and the bad, and not letting the bad take on heavier weight. Quite the opposite. You’re one of the most positive persons I’ve ever known! You drip with positivity! (Don’t change). 🙂

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  3. I applaud your efforts Claudette. This is a very informative post. It’s also a bit of a helping hand to manifest a rewire to those that need it. Sometimes I wonder how I get through life, but I do manage to get my head gremlins to bolt the door on my anxiety and depression, sometimes one of them is lazy and leaves the door slightly ajar. Weirdly just then speaking of what’s going on inside in a very creative way, further pushed me into a calm state. I guess for me creativity is the key. Here’s to better days. 🤗❤️

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    1. Like Ashley and Paula said for some people, medication helps. I was once put on Paxil for a period of about 6 months when I went to my doctor and told him I was at the end of my rope with a approaching renovation, two young kids in sports, huge amounts of debt, and a million other things. I told my doctor I did not want to live my life dependent on drugs but I was really struggling now, didn’t have time for therapy, and really only needed to get through this reno. He put together a plan for me to take something for the duration of the reno, then wean me off it again and consider therapy when things settled down. It helped me, and although the withdrawal was awful despite the plan we put in place, I know medication has a place for some of us.

      My point about the subconscious here was more about not letting the past or past reactions and emotions dictate our present or future. There are multiple ways of doing this, and although I’m still a beginner and failing at some of my attempts, I am making strides forward. I feel confident that I will get to the place I want to by staying on course.

      And like you, creativity is my ticket too. 🙂

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  4. Agreed..it is all in the mind. What you feed is what it gives and you respond accordingly. We respond based on our past experiences and beliefs. The moment we step out of the past and the belief zone the narrative changes and so does the response to any situation.
    Stay blessed always 🙏🌹🙏

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    1. I know people for whom this works. Then I think ‘oh but these things never work for me’ and right there, a limiting belief has been reconfirmed. Why not let that go, consider the new day free of yesterday’s BS, and start fresh? Every single day.

      I’m doing this and failing regularly, but every day I start again and every day I last a little longer.

      Your dad, as many people that generation, was wise. We should listen to our parents. 🙂

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  5. Ashley and Paula make good points. It ties is with something I recently saw or read… something, somewhere… 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️ It was about Free Will and how we don’t really have it because we’re all products of our DNA (nature) and the environment (nurture). A person with a chemical issue that causes a mental disorer/illness can’t manifest a correctly working endocrine system.
    But as you point out, we CAN retrain the way we respond to situations/stimuli.

    I’m a firm believer in tapping into the subconscious or actively trying to shut my conscious chatter down and just going with whatever is happening… letting my subconscious have the “controls”.
    I’ve been working on this for a looonnnnggg time though. It’s not some magic “6 easy steps to be a perfect human” kind of thing. Awareness is always a great starting point.
    So, thank you! This post is very helpful with that Awareness. 👏 💌💌💌

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    1. My main point, as I described in my replies in other comments, is that living in the present moment without the weight of yesterday’s BS, is going to give me a more positive outlook on the future.

      If I wake up thinking oh fuck he’s ghosting me again, oh crap she left all her clutter for me to clean up again, I’m living in the past. Today is fresh. Today is clean. Just because my subconscious is telling me x happened when someone disconnected from me or left a bunch of their clutter blocking my path to the coffee doesn’t mean I should let those feelings take over my life (but they did). Instead, I could just choose not to let that shit bother me, and live in the present moment without drawing on the stored memory of how I lashed out, cried or did whatever in similar circumstances in the past.

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  6. I think there are two very different things at play here. The relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and the idea of working on your thoughts to rewire your brain is fundamental stuff in cognitive behavioural therapy. The Secret’s version of the law of attraction and manifestation get into pseudoscience stuff about vibrating out to the universe what you want and the universe handing it to you, with some made-up quantum physics tossed in for good measure. The fact that CBT can be really effective doesn’t mean that the law of attraction is accurate.

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    1. I haven’t tested it all out myself, yet. All I know is I tend to let the weight of unhappy events carry me rather than allow myself to feel gratitude and joy to counter the effect of the negativity.

      My overactive imagination allows me to create elaborate worst-case scenarios which then set the tone for my day. I made a promise to myself in recent weeks and months to not let that happen anymore. Why let the negative shit from yesterday affect my fresh, un-lived day today? I have a clean slate in today. Instead of letting my subconscious dig deep in my memory and dredge up yesterday’s BS, why not stay present in the current neutrality and make the new day about today, not about yesterday?

      At least that’s what my aim is every day. I’m working on it but I’m not there yet.

      In terms of sending out positive energies, I don’t know how that works exactly, but I like the idea of it. Frankly, if someone tells me ‘oh, you look tired’ they’re telling me I look like shit. Why not put on a happy face and see if that attracts other happy events, happy people?

      Always a pleasure reading your comments, Ashley.

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  7. I agree with a lot of this, but actual depression and other true mental disorders are not things most people can get over via force of will. Medical intervention is often necessary to help the process. My schizophrenic ex tried to reprogram his brain, but he only functioned OK when he was taking heavy meds.

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    1. I have no problem with medical intervention. I wouldn’t dream of advising someone with a diagnosed condition to simply accept mind over body. It doesn’t work that way.

      For the day to day anxieties, which for me are sometimes about events that I make up in my mind and haven’t even happened yet (worst-case scenario planning), there has to be a way to placate my reactions. Why I give them so much weight and ignore the happier moments, or suppress them, is fascinating to me. To be aware that I do not have to let one harsh criticism carry me through the day, but rather focus on the 12 happy comments instead, is one way of training my brain to let go of the harsh comment.

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  8. First, I have to say I am honored to be included in the topic of this post! Second- everything you said is true and what I have been learning on my fear of flying journey. I have to re-train my brain not to respond with anxiety because now it’s the hard-wired reaction. Third- the ex and that neutrality idea. I absolutely get that I need to view him as nothing more than a lump of some inconsequential and rather off-putting substance. That isn’t necessarily tough to do…and would clearly encourage a simple “that’s just a lump of gunk that someone else has to deal with” response and I would move on. Yet the lump almost always seems to start talking, and often those words will be very characteristically racist, sexist, misogynistic…things I cannot abide or listen to. Given all that, when forced to be around the lump I then must choose to: ignore it’s incredibly offensive remarks; make a huge scene and call out the behavior; remind myself that lumps don’t matter in the big picture; or simply avoid the lump at all costs as I have chosen to do with flying?
    If it was possible to remove his ability to say words I would be all in. How do I make that happen?

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    1. There are decades of learned behaviour toward your lump. To simply ignore his comments, no matter how offensive, may not be the way to deal with it. I understand this. I react to clutter, mess, ghosting etc the same way each time (which causes me negativity, tears, anger and all the rest of it. Not a good way to be.)

      My point with this study is to see if I can feel a different emotion when I experience an undesirable event. Can I shut down the rising anxiety that will make me lash out and find a positive, happy moment to focus on while the mess, clutter and ghosting is happening to me? Why am I giving those negative aspects in my life more weight than the positive? Why can I carry these negative events with me throughout the day and week but forget about the joyful moment I had earlier that day or week?

      Your lump gave you your kids. Without him you would not have the kids, nor the grandkids. To be grateful for that tiny snippet may be all you need to stay calm. I’m no expert, I’m just trying to express that your feelings toward him resonate with me about different circumstances.

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      1. That makes sense and I know that reacting in a more positive manner would certainly help lower the cortisol running rampant through my body from all the stress I encounter with him. Maybe that’s a focus of empowerment at the very least- He’s not going to jeopardize my health because I can choose to find something positive instead. There must be a moment or two somewhere in those 34 years…

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  9. I don’t know if I’ve manifested who I am, but I do know that it takes effort to be a good person. And that is my goal. When I read about how your subconscious influences all that you do, that rings true. I agree about your brain not being smart enough to know the difference between real or imagined threats. Especially when it comes to doctor things. Therein for me anxiety lurks.

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    1. I struggle with anxiety and predicting certain outcomes based on what happened before. I see now that my brain is simply searching for the emotions and actions I had during that event and telling me that who to feel and act.

      I see a trigger like clutter and mess, the brain goes to the memory of how I felt the last time I saw clutter and mess, and then computes how I felt and acted, which is why I’m now feeling and acting the same way. But I know I can let that go and find a better emotion, or action, to deal with the clutter and mess. It’s really hard to so but it works. At least some of the time (baby steps).

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