Yesterday I heard the term she-session for the first time. So I searched up the term and discovered a number of explanations dating back to 2020.
I find the constant battle between men and women irksome. Must we continually label everything as his or hers?
I am well aware of all that has occurred against women over generations and understand why we have political movements and hash tags driving the trends.
I don’t want to participate.
Let me give you an example:
When the Harvey Weinstein thing happened and MeToo became a social media driven hashtag, I was still hanging around in Facebook (I rarely do now and may delete my account in 2022).
One day a neighbour/hockeymom posted the words MeToo on her page which showed up on my feed. So did about half the women I was connected to.
It sent me back to that time I was molested by a doctor. I thought, yeah it happened to me, too.
But I didn’t post.
I didn’t want to be lumped in with the women who chose to express their solidarity with that hash tag.
To be clear, I feel solidarity with them, of course I do. But I don’t want to claim a hash tag on the public forum.
Because it feels like I’m bashing all men.
I don’t want to do that. Most men in my orbit are not abusers, assholes or jerks.
So, when I came upon the she-session term, I got curious. What is it about that term that makes people want to label the gender divide?
Further research tells me that the majority of people whose careers and jobs were affected negatively by the pandemic was women. I’m not clear if the statistic refers to a country or a continent, I didn’t dig deep enough, but the two sources I searched were a Canadian news network and an American business newspaper.
Ok, I can appreciate with all the remote learning and virtual teaching and school closures etc that women, moms especially, have carried the brunt of this recession in the past couple of years.
I definitely see the struggles, the frustration and the losses.
So I can appreciate that a trendy term was created to hurl out into the internet abyss.
But it still irks me. I happen to know two men personally whose careers were affected more adversely than any of the women I know or am aware of in this pandemic. The women in my orbit carried on whereas the men, mostly midlifers, struggled.
Why do we have to differentiate all the time? Why do we need to zoom in to gender, skin colour, socio-economic status and similar labels?
Do I do this too? Am I conditioned to make statements that people read as “all men” or “all women”?
I will work on being more aware of this in the coming year.