Disclaimer: I am not religious, and my observations and interpretations of this somewhat religious tarot card may sound a little crass to those of you who follow a deeply Christian worldview. Comments are welcome but will be blocked if they attack or otherwise offend me or my readers.
The Lovers card in upright position in the classic tarot deck irritates me. At least at first glance.
Description of The Lovers card
Adam and Eve are standing in the Garden of Eden, naked and vulnerable. The impression I get is that the woman is looking toward the angel (and god) and appears less concerned by matters of the flesh, whereas the man is looking for passion, pleasure and release.
Why can’t the woman want to feel passion, pleasure and release? 😉
Here’s the symbolic (Christian) interpretation of The Lovers tarot card:
- The couple is naked which symbolizes their most vulnerable state.
- They are in the Garden of Eden with the fruit and serpent symbolizing temptation.
- Temptation is bad, because it leads to sex, which is bad if it takes focus away from the divine.
- The woman looks at the heavens, symbolizing her desire to be with the divine.
- The man looks at the woman’s nude body. We know what he wants.
- The somewhat phallic-shaped mountain symbolizes volcanic eruption is imminent. We know another eruption is imminent. His, not hers. According to the card, the lady wants to feel divine pleasure, not an orgasm.
I was dissatisfied with this initial impression so I turned to my sources which include three websites, a few online tarot readers on YouTube and a couple of books. The ones I like place a contemporary spin on this card. I appreciate that.
However, as you may know from this post, I pulled The Lovers card in reverse, so in the interest of keeping this post a manageable length, I won’t dig too deep into the upright meaning of the card. You can do your own research if you’re interested. Biddy Tarot, Little Red Tarot and Labyrinthos have interesting interpretations which align with my own world view.
The Lovers in reverse
Main points when this card shows up in your reading in the reverse position are:
- misalignment of values
- making bad choices
- struggle with self-love
My interpretation of The Lovers in reverse
The relationships that guide, fulfill and occupy us are diverse and varied. This is key in understanding the message about this card; despite the card’s name implying lusts and desire between two people, the meaning trespasses beyond romantic or sexual love.
The card asks us to acknowledge the current relationships that may exhibit some of the key terms when appearing upside down: in the case of spousal partners, are your current circumstances of disharmony a passing phase, or is this a case of having grown apart?
Look deeply into your circumstances; if misery and arguments make up the bulk of your relationship, has the inevitable occurred? Perhaps it’s time to honour yourself and consider letting it go.
If it’s a phase, understand that it takes two to tango, so to speak. There are ways to repair disharmony. The Lovers card guides you to seek help and find ways to increase communications with your loved ones.
But if the phase has gone on long enough, perhaps it’s time to take more drastic actions. Only you can make that decision – the card does not tell you one way or the other what course of action to take, but asks you to dig deep and search for the answer which exists within you.
Relationship with self
The Lovers card can also point to the relationship you have with yourself.
When it shows up in reverse, take a look at how you treat yourself.
- Are you overly critical with yourself? (I’m not good enough, I will fail so I may as well not start, etc)
- Do you suffer from inner conflicts? (I feel unattractive, no one likes me, etc)
Sometimes disharmony is part of life but can be overcome, especially when you take time away and nurture yourself, emotionally, mentally and physically. It’s part of the journey of life, to regain a balance of your inner self.
Other times, the card may point to a tough choice you’re facing, one that may have significant consequences.
The Lovers card shows up in a reading at a time when you need guidance and a reminder that you must choose a path that is in alignment with your world view and your values.
I think I can live with this interpretation. Those of you who have read here long enough know that I struggle with family issues (who doesn’t) and that the teenage trenches sometimes throw me into the pit of despair. But, I am spoiled in many ways, fortunate to have access to escapes for short periods of time where I can disconnect from the chaos, regroup and focus on myself.
I wish the same for you, wherever in the world you are.
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