Some time ago someone asked me some specifics about my partner. Specifically, they wanted to know if my partner was male, i.e. whether I was in a heterosexual relationship.
It was clear to me that this person had not read my blog for very long, because I think it’s obvious that we are living the life of a traditional family. I am the primary caregiver and he is the primary earner and we cohabit at the same address and raise the spawn together.
But it begs to ponder nomenclature, doesn’t it.
By chance, I came across an article which addressed this exact topic. And it made me think about all the different types of terminology we use to describe our so-called partners:
- significant other
- life partner
- other half/better half
- common-law partner
- common-law husband/wife
- common-law spouse
- the father/mother of my/our children
- plus one
- bride (to a lesser extend, groom)
- mate (UK/Australia/New Zealand)
- the husband/the wife
- old lady/old man
- (some derogatory or insulting names which have no place in this post…)
It’s quite an extensive list, isn’t it. 🙂
I have referred to my partner mostly as my partner. This is what he is, theoretically: we are partners in tending to this house, to this family, to the kids. The fact that we are, technically, fiancé/fiancée is beside the point. I mean, he sort of proposed to me, and there is a ring which I haven’t worn in years, but to go around naming him my fiancé after 20 years, a mortgage and two kids seems a little…weird.
The article talks a lot about spousal nomenclature, and touches on same-sex unions and its terminology. You can read the article here.
So, my question is, what do you prefer? I realize many of you are in traditional husband/wife relationships, but you can still chime in with your preferences if you wish.
Personally, I like partner – no matter what our past, current and future status is or will be, it still encompasses an accurate description of our roles inside the family unit that includes both offspring and tangible assets.
See you in the comments.