Those of you who have read here a while know that I’m a little bit…different.
Let’s go with that. 🙃
Here is something about me though that most of you probably will not dispute: I am nothing if not creative.
As I continue to write my stories, and edit my stories, and proofread my stories, and finish my stories, and begin new stories, I realized something.
I need some personal experience to supplement some of my creativity. And this is the reason why I started a bit of an unusual experiment a couple of weeks ago.
I decided to load some dating apps.
Now, before you jump all over me or hurl all sorts of accusations at me, I told the husband. You may join him with the eye-rolling activity. Because that’s all I got out of him. 🙄
Point is, I started with two apps, a popular one (not tinder) and a not-so popular one, and I have come across all sorts of interesting information that will help me with my romantic liaison writing.
Side note 1: I loaded the free options. They are extremely limiting and don’t even allow connections unless you upgrade (and pay)…(I am not paying anything.)
But more on that in a bit.
Anyway, this experiment was started about two weeks ago and right now, my prevailing reaction is how do I stop the notifications from populating my inbox? omg 😬
Again, no connections have been actualized because I am not paying for the upgrade. I am simply looking around (and feeling kind of heart-broken at the many, many lonely men out there in my general vicinity).
A few points before I continue:
I used a pen-name, not my real name. Not only that, I admitted to my name being a pen-name in the summary. This way, I am not catfishing anyone because it says right there that my name is a pen-name.
Side note 2: Catfishing can have some serious consequences. If you present yourself online you have to be careful of people with sinister intent. I have read a multi-series blog post by a friend of mine who used to date actively using dating apps, and was subjected to some serious catfishing. She is in Australia and he was in another country; they arranged to meet, there was talk of her buying him an airline ticket…it was a bit of a mess. (She didn’t end up doing anything, she became aware that she was being catfished.) To quote Wikipedia: In some cases, catfishing may be used for financial gain, to compromise a victim in some way, as a way to intentionally upset a victim, etc.
So I figured, I am going to tell people that the name they see is a pseudonym.
This actually led me down the path of investigating fake profiles on dating apps. I did a bit of reading and came up with some information. For instance, there is a statistical analysis that 1 in 10 profiles on tinder are fake. Tinder is one of the most used, as well as popular, dating apps in the world, but there are many others. I’m sure the stats are similar on all the apps.
But, I am curious and want to know what’s out there for several reasons. I have no intention of outing anyone, catfishing anyone, or even matching with anyone. I’m just looking for, well, musing lore, so to speak.
Side note 3: I have not, to date, regretted my interest in all things online. Ever since I started blogging and using a variety of social media, I have learned many, many things I would not have known if I had maintained an attitude of internet = bad. I always maintained that knowing how these things work is better than not knowing, especially because I have kids who are teens and we all know they’re online, especially now with covid.
I have things I have discovered already that produce enough fodder to fill this blog for the next week or so. But here’s my question:
Does this interest you? Should I bother writing out my observations? Or could you not care less about this sort of thing?
See you in the comments.
PS Lockdown has been extended another two weeks here in Toronto. There is literally nothing to do beyond what we’ve done already a hundred times over. So…be nice to me. I am feeling very fragile and I’m trying hard to keep it together here. Writing is my outlet.