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8 responses to my own questions (plus link love)

I posted a few questions the other day and invited you to respond. To get to know some of the bloggers, click on this post and go to the comments.

Note: there may or may not be a snarky, smart-ass comment in there from yours truly. #SorryNotSorry šŸ˜›

As promised, here are my responses:

1. What is the first action you take when you feel out of control?

It pains me to admit that stress due to lack of certain controls sometimes has me lash out in anger or with anxiety, followed immediately by withdrawal and deep introversion and sadness.

2. What do you fear most?

I fear physical pain. I had a severe migraine as a child that ended me up in a coma for two weeks, might be from that.

3. If given a chance to rebel against something, what would it be?

Domestic structures, rules and the confines that make me act or be a certain way. I want to rebel against the roles I play every day. I want to be free. Maybe not completely (which is impossible anyway what with offspring and all that…) but just for a little while. And at regular intervals. šŸ™‚

4. Are you by nature a jealous person; why or why not?

Only rarely do I feel jealous but it does happen occasionally. Usually I just don’t give a damn. It depends on the circumstances. And it’s hard to control if/when it does happen; it gets easier with life experience.

5. What is your favorite type of weather?

I love all four seasons, which in my location (Toronto) are distinct. Only exception is extreme cold or excessive humidity, both of which exist in Toronto as well. Autumn with its colours and pleasant temperatures should last longer than it does.

6. Do you see yourself blogging for the foreseeable future?

Yes. I really can’t see myself giving it up, although I do see myself taking breaks occasionally.

7. What is one thing you’ve always wanted to try and what has held you back from trying it?

Getting a tattoo. Fear of pain and lack of extra funds prevent me from getting one.

8. You have been given 6 months and an unlimited budget: where do you want to go and what do you want to do there?

Italy. Maybe start in Sicily and travel around all the way to the northern border with Switzerland and France. I would absorb all the culture, architecture, history and food/wine, and sit on balconies in quaint hotels with beautiful scenery and write.

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  4. Let me answer
    1. anger road rage or overeating
    2. death
    3. dressing my age, i rebel at that now šŸ™‚
    4. used to be, changed to keep my sanity in tact
    5. fall. Winter my bones hurt, Spring Allergies kick in, Summer my muscles hurt.
    6. yup as long as i can create.
    7. a nude resort which was supposed to happen this year, but a virus got in the way :/
    8. England, would love to tour BBC Radio, then travel to Whales because i am 1/4 Welsh and hang out with fellow wordpresser Pete Mosey who I co edit The Finest Example with.

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  5. Getting a tattoo is something I often considered when I was younger. The thing that stopped me is that I could never decide (for more than a month or so) what tattoo I would actually want.

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      1. i have three on my right bicep, not overly painful as opposed to a co worker that got one on her ankle and had to bite down on a towel and nearly broke her husbands hand. Also depends on how high your tolerance for pain is as well.

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      3. Absolutely thanks for asking. Been back to work at my non essential job, today will be 2 weeks now. But not planning on gathering in any large groups till there is either a cure otr vaccine in place.

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      7. also never get a foreign language tattoo unless you are absolutely certain you know what it says. in 2003 a year my mom died i thought i got a chinese character for strength, blind faith in the tattoo shop, years later a cousin that studied chinese said it was “little field pig” so instead of getting it removed or changed i put a bad ass pic of a blind samauri pig named Zato Ino from the comic Usagi Yojimbo beneath it.

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  8. I know everybody is commenting on #3, but I have to add my two cents. I get it. I was in that situation once; I married my high school sweetheart, which sounds romantic…but the reality was, you are not the same person at 32 that you were at 17. We drifted apart (despite the kids) and I grew more and more disenchanted over what I saw as a million missed opportunities. Worst of all, I sacrificed myself to try and fit into a mold that just wasn’t me. By the time we’d been together a decade I craved that freedom almost as much as oxygen or water. It felt like a NEED for me…and when I finally got it, it knocked my socks off. Everybody’s situation is different, of course. I’m just saying, I know what that desire feels like. Breaking free allowed me to be the person I was always meant to be, and live the life I wanted. You only get one chance, after all. (Unless you’re a Buddhist and believe in reincarnation, in which case, you might have endless opportunities at fulfilling lives.)

    On a lighter note, #7: me, too! I’m not afraid of the pain so much as just trying to figure out what to get (and where to put it). Feel free to offer suggestions! šŸ™‚

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    1. You say it much better than I did. Thank you. ā¤

      I go through phases, I don’t *always* feel trapped, but honestly the past few years or so, I’ve had to put much more effort into putting one foot in front of the other to make it through yet another day…it makes me sound ungrateful but that is not how I feel. Like I said, you say it better. šŸ™‚

      Thank you Mark for sharing your personal perspective. Seems fathers too go though similar things…who knew? šŸ˜Š

      I’ll have to think about my response to #7. šŸ˜‰

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      1. Men aren’t really that different than women (anatomical differences notwithstanding).

        If you ever want more detailed background, feel free to drop me a line. I experienced much of what you’re going through and can relate like crazy. I don’t want to hijack your comments, though!

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  9. Solid answers, but on #3, does your partner help in breaking the domestic stereotyping? I only ask because when you are in a relationship, especially married, breaking a domestic structure takes both partners.

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    1. It’s not him, he’s very active in both household and child rearing. Plus he coaches and works full time. I just mean it would be nice to have the mental break from responsibility and worry at times, to pursue some things without so many interruptions. It’s a first world problem, not a “real” one…:)

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      1. They have a word for what you just described. It is “retirement”. There is NO way with minor children around you are going to avoid the mundanes and trappings of the structure you are hoping to get a break from. Just wait until they are on their own, then you will enter a freer mode. Hard to reach for the stars when you are always scrubbing a toilet.

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  11. Love your answers. Itā€™s good getting to know you better. Totally with you on number 3 and please can I come too for number 8 – sounds like heaven. Thanks for the link love too. šŸ˜Šā¤ļø

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