*or women like me. 😜
Scene 1
Her: I feel fat.
Him: You’re not fat.
Her: walks away thinking ‘I know I’m not fat but I feel fat and bloated and unattractive and miserable‘. Continues to feel fat and bloated and unattractive and miserable but now also feels dissatisfied.
Scene 2
Her: I feel fat.
Him: I love your curves…
Her: Aw, thanks!
Walks away thinking ‘how unfeminist of me to feel better because he said that to me‘…
PS. I’m not normal… ❗😉
Normal is boring
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From this guy’s perspective: Was he wrong for 1) Stating a fact – being supportive, reassuring … and 2) Expressing his feelings … “Loving Curves” isn’t a thought crime, yet 🙂 Also, good guys just want to say nice things to the women they care about when they truly mean them. And, maybe, he should’ve just shut his mouth and nodded.
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Boy oh boy. 😄
I think stating a fact at such a time is misplaced. For instance, although I don’t say it out loud knowing full well that men think it’s a trap, I sometimes think it. I’m not overweight exactly but probably should weigh maybe 10, 15 or so pounds less…I know I would feel better. When I feel that way I also feel sorry for myself. Would be nice to hear a comment other than a factual statement at times like that.
For him to say ‘you’re not fat’ doesn’t do anything for her immediate state of mind. She’s asking for acceptance despite of how she *feels*…
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Claudette, you make far too much sense. I don’t. 🙂
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I was told recently that “normal” is a setting on the washer not a person.
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I love this. I will have to remember to use it.
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It’s all in the mood and the response.
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Sounds normal to me.
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Lol
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