Monday answers to your questions – part IV

It’s Monday again and I have more answers to your questions you asked me in this post as well as the follow-up reminder post.

In previous weeks I answered the questions which you can see here and here and here.

Today’s answers are ready for you below, from Andrea Frazer, Laci, Kara, Steve, theearthspins and Jim. Enjoy. πŸ™‚

Question by Andrea Frazer (it appears your Happily Ticked Off blog has been deleted. What a great name though!)

Q: What is a situation that challenged you and how would you do it differently if you could?

A: Well pretty much every work situation in my youth that was out of the norm…lol. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, isn’t it? πŸ˜‰ So is life experience. But let’s see if I can come up with something I can talk about in these pages…

Raising teenagers. I find myself spending too much time justifying my position. I hear myself talk too much and instinctively know that they don’t listen anyway. There’s a tricky balance where you as the parent need to acknowledge them and their viewpoints but at the same time guide them in such a way that they will ultimately respect you even if they don’t like your answers or rules. I shoot myself in the foot with this all the time. Take for example screen time.<

I have said time and again that he has limits. That he has several clocks in that room that will help him respect the limit. That I have faith in his ability to respect the limit. And when he doesn’t I start talking about wifi passwords and plugging him out forcibly and in the end – none of that happens which just leads him to see that I am nothing but a bunch of empty threads. I have to find a way to do better, but it’s just so much micro-managing, I get tired of it. So that’s one situation I can certainly improve on.

Questions by Laci

Q: What is your favorite book genre?

A: I love mysteries, sometimes thrillers, sometimes with a complicated relationship edge. But crime mysteries are probably my favorite. Doesn’t mean I don’t read other genres, I do, lots, but the most gripping books for me have usually been the mysteries. Robert B. Parker is one I love to read (unfortunately he died…boo) and Ian Rankin. There are others…many others. Maybe I’ll address this topic in a new blog post one day. πŸ™‚

Q: What is your favorite music genre?

A: I don’t know if I have one! I go through phases. For a while I was listening to the hair medal guys from the 80s (Bon Jovi, Def Leppard), which merged over to the heavier stuff (Aerosmith, Guns & Roses), then I got sick of them and turn to 80s pop (Duran Duran, REM, U2 etc) or some soft rock (classic mostly). Or I might be in the mood for some Bryan Adams, or Billy Idol…it depends. I don’t really like contemporary music much…

Friday and Saturday evenings I like listening to vocal Jazz, especially in the colder, darker months when we’re stuck indoors with good food and wine…When I write I like instrumental or classical music. Or nothing. Absolute silence. Sometimes silence is music to my hears. πŸ™‚

Question by Kara

Q: At the risk of sounding excessively judgmental (and exclusionary to many other people in the world), how did you get so pretty? πŸ˜‰

A: Aw…that’s nice of you to say. Would you believe I have self-image issues? The fact that I use selfies in my posts or in Instagram occasionally is a new thing, one I have very recently developed (in the past year). I’m trying to be a little bit, um, nicer to myself I guess. But thank you for the compliment. πŸ™‚

Lets see, how can I answer this? I’m dark (hair, eyes) because both my parents have Italian blood (my mom is Swiss but her dad was from the Italian side). Then I birthed a blond child, and she is still blond today (some people darken over time). She takes after her dad’s side. Her dad is not blond but he has two blond sisters and two blond nieces…their lineage is Latvian.

Funny thing is, people at my daughter’s school say she looks like me. And I don’t see that at all. πŸ™‚

Question by Steve

Q: What do you believe to be the meaning of life?

A: I’m not sure I have a proper answer to this question.

I am aware that some people, especially those who have deep faith, can answer this question without much hesitation and with a lot more eloquence than I can. But I’ll try:

I spend a lot of my time, too much time, wallowing in self-pity, dealing with depression and anxiety, and trying to manage angry outbursts that may seem out of place by others. Which isn’t to say it’s all doom and gloom. I am raising a family, which is probably the most significant thing I have done with my life that has actual purpose.

My perspective has changed after the kids have arrived, for the better. And it has given me opportunities to reach beyond the self-absorbed-ness that comes with being single. (Not all single people are like this, but many are. When you suddenly have a tiny human in your care that you are responsible for, you tend to evolve into a different person whether you like it or not.) Most of everything else that came before I had kids is fluff now (if I can refer to hindsight). So maybe that’s my answer. πŸ™‚

Questions by theearthspins

Q: What genre of books do you read?

A: Laci asked me this same question so I will refer you to her segment for details. The short answer: mysteries.

Q: Another question: Did you get your sense of humor from mom or dad?

No. πŸ™‚

I don’t think we’re a very humorous family, frankly. My perspectives are a little different from the norm, the status quo, the masses, so maybe that’s why you think I have a sense of humour?

I practice things I’m not good at in this blog, so thank you for mentioning this. I will continue to bring my unique sense of humour into my blog posts whenever possible. πŸ™‚

Question by Jim

Q: If you had a chance to sell your kids to a circus or trade them for a monkey, would you???

A: Well kind of love my current monkeys! πŸ΅πŸ’

Yes they drive me bananas occasionally (pun intended…get it?) but the circus is out. Ha. πŸ™‚

However, maybe I’ll send them to military camp for a while…hm. πŸ˜‚



7 thoughts on “Monday answers to your questions – part IV

  1. The struggle of micromanaging teens is real, and I’m right there with you! I’m trying to work on not lecturing as much because I know they’ve tuned out after the fifth word, but I keep failing, and like you, feel like I have to make my point. The point becomes pointless when it falls on deaf ears. πŸ˜’

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  2. I think it’s never a waste of time to be looking into yourself, how you tick, what matters to you, etc. I agree about kids – how they become your everything. But once you’ve mentioned the kids (and maybe other family members) what else is there other than yourself? Talking here – one of the greatest introverts who would see herself as a very successful hermit if only others would let her.

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