On the quest for fresh content

While on the quest to find new and interesting content to read, I went back into my old Medium account and read a couple of fantastic articles.

One was called Relax, Ladies. Don’t be so uptight. You know you want it.ย  If you’re GenX this will make you Cringe with a capital C. I will most likely post a blog about this article at some point, but I need some time to process and reflect. If you read it, let me know what you think, especially if you are also a GenXer. ๐Ÿ™‚

The other was called Getting Engaged is Embarrassing by June Beaux. The quote that hooked me from this article was this: “I’ve never been congratulated more for doing less“. It’s kind of a fascinating statement, isn’t it.

The article about getting engaged made me recall a book I read many moons ago. It was called The Meaning of Wife by Anne Kingston. The first chapter is gripping – just how ridiculous has the whole wedding industry become here in North America? Her perspective resonates deeply with me (although it’s been a long while since I’ve read this book). I have one thing to say that connects the article by June with the book by Anne: they both write in such a way that resonates deeply with me.

Note: I am not normal. ๐Ÿ™‚ I didn’t dream of my wedding day as a girl. I didn’t have a binder full of potential dress picture or hairstyles. I didn’t yearn for the attention the way some girls I knew did (or do). It just wasn’t me. The last thing I ever wanted was a traditional wedding (shudder). I’m not against weddings but would probably, if it were to ever happen to me, want to elope. THAT is more up my alley.

But I’m not going to elope now. Or have a wedding. I am simply remarking on the bravery that these women embarked on discussing some of the contemporary issues involving women and the perhaps outdated expectations regarding engagements, weddings, and matrimonial bliss.

As I’m babbling along in my drivel, I can’t help but recall a very funny (but stupid) movie with Kate Hudson and Ann Hathaway called Bride Wars. It addresses the whole wedding topic in a humorous and entertaining way (which just enforces how much I don’t want any of it). I have watched this movie a few times only because around Valentine’s Day (another ridiculous commercial event – sorry, I know I’m a cynic) it comes on tv a million times and sometimes I can’t help myself.


But the point of this post was supposed to be about something completely different. I am peeved at the fact that Medium wants me to pay for reading after I get 3 free articles on my account.

Back when I joined Medium I didn’t have to pay to read. Now, they want five bucks a month.

I don’t want to pay them five bucks a month to read. Boo.

Good morning Sunday. How are things in your neck of the woods?


28 thoughts on “On the quest for fresh content

  1. I agree with your thoughts wholeheartedly regarding the wedding industry, engagements, and the idea of getting married being a “woman’s greatest accomplishment” when it seems like the end all be all for men. The hell? I too am not about the traditional route. If I do remarry, I’d prefer to do so at a Las Vegas drive-thru chapel with a celebrity impersonator of choosing to officiate.

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  2. I read the medium article – the one about women wanting “it”. I cringed. medium won’t last if they expect 5 bucks a month to read. There’s a tsunami of websites out there to read.

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    1. Yes I mentioned I will address them as of this coming Monday. There were a lot of questions and I needed time to answer them and group them. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Check in on Mondays every week until I get to yours. โ˜บ

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  3. I saw that headline about getting engaged. Ha! Also, my book was featured on Medium with an interview that was one of many I did, but it was one of my favorites. I wasnโ€™t familiar with Medium prior to that and I recently got something asking me to pay for additional content. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ I donโ€™t think so.

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  4. I wasn’t even aware of Medium, but enjoyed the two articles, both excellent and worthy of discussion. I’m a baby boomer and a feminist but remember the 8o’s….I guess the article does help explain why so many women vote for and excuse The Trumpet’s bad behaviour. It was interesting reading. As for the whole wedding industry, her point was good too. There’s a big difference between a wedding and a marriage/relationship. Young girls seem so fixated on having all those perfect details about what is basically a very expensive day in the life of a hopefully long relationship. It’s a big waste of money IMO. Better to put a down payment on a house, or take a nice trip. PS. I do believe it was if you weren’t married before the age of 30 (not 40) you were more likely to be gunned down by a terrorist! I watched When Harry Met Sally last winter (a movie I used to love), and realized how dated and out of touch it was. Watching it today, I thought they were doomed – Harry was nothing but a rude, selfish chauvinistic man! And she was happy to have him?? ?? Someone should do a sequel….. PS. Thanks for sharing the articles.

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      1. Some of the dialogue is really bad – so dated and basically rude. I was surprised as I hadn’t remembered it that way……change of opinion I guess. It’s good to reexamine your opinions every few decades!

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  5. Oh, my, that first article. I’m a baby of the baby boomers – graduating in 1983 from HS. I remember the Hanes ad, and the expectation to always wear nylons when in a dress, especially in the workplace. I remember the first day I wore a dress without nylons. Heaven! I could breathe and so could my legs. But that’s TMI! As for today…I’m still on a cleaning mission. I’ve let that go way too long! For some reason, having a clean house has never gone out of date, right?

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    1. I hated nylons which were compulsory as part of the flight attendant uniform. That was early 90s. My friends and I switched to mid-thigh high nylon stockings instead which some wore with garters (not me, mine stayed up). They were only slightly more comfortable. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      If I never have to wear them again it won’t be too soon.

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      1. LOL – I remember that now that you mention it – every flight attendant had/has that look going on. I never tried the mid-thigh ones, probably ‘cuz of the garter belt – it’s bad enough having the nylon friction between the legs – metal or plastic poking holes into my legs wasn’t attractive to me ;-). I avoid nylons as much as possible. I better check the pairs that I have stashed away – the elastic might be gone while they died a slow death in the drawer.

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  6. Just briefly, as I am off to work and have no time right now to delve into the links you posted (later I will) a thank you for the alert on Medium. I have an academic WP friend who doesn’t write much here anymore but who does publish on Medium. Started a “free” account there to keep up with her stuff when she writes but I had no idea I was going to be limited on what I could read. Not paying Medium a fee, so hopefully I can find her papers elsewhere.

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  7. I got that Medium pop-up the other day and very nearly blogged about it.

    I don’t even have an account there so most of what I see is a result of following links. As such, I find myself wondering how many Medium writers are going to find that no-one reads their content because the paywall comes up so quickly.

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    1. The medium authors want people to read because they tweet it out. But it links back to medium. That’s hiw I sign in to my medium account, with twitter…

      Look at how many claps they get on an article. If someone has 500 claps (likes) does this mean 10 are from non-paying readers and the others are paying subscribers?

      It raises a whole topic on paying for your words. Who gets the money? Medium? Do they pay their authors? (I think not).

      I don’t know. It’s frustrating. Because I quite like some of the content.


      1. It would be interesting to know how exactly how Medium’s business model works and who gets how much from the site. As you say, though, that’s a whole other topic.

        I don’t object to sites charging for content in principle but the Medium paywall comes up so quickly that it does deter a casual reader such as myself.

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      2. So I just tried something. I don’t use medium and I don’t go there ever. But as an experiment, I opened articles until it said “You’re done for this month” blah, blah. Then I right clicked on an article and said “Open in incognito mode” and it opened right up. Because in incognito mode, it doesn’t really know who you are anymore. Now before everyone says “Oh, that’s terrible – how dare you cheat the system like that” – let me just say I recently heard through the grapevine that sites are getting smarter and won’t support incognito mode, so think of it as a limited engagement.

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  8. I’m a boomer and not a baby – I’m with you on the feminist stuff – I was brought up not to see how women were pigeon-holed – I can hardly write this – I haven’t the words – but if you did notice something – the whole world was geared a particular way – you were made to feel you were unreasonably complaining – and men were just the way they were, and women were just the way they were. Homosexuality was against the law – I don’t think lesbianism was – it just plain wasn’t taken seriously – they couldn’t figure out what two women could do together anyway – neither of them had a penis – what could happen? People learn to play roles within the society they are born into – it’s not just about gender-roles – it’s ideology – beliefs so strong that they seem to be natural.

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    1. I think the article touched on lesbians…girl on girl action was male entertainment, therefore acceptable. But if two women were attracted/in love/sexually compatible and in a relationship, that was frowned upon. I think that’s what it said.

      It’s a thought provoking article. I clicked on some of the commerical links. *cringe*


      1. Absolute cringe. I followed your link for the hanes – tights – bodyhose, whatever it’s called. It made me so angry. i remember these attitudes from my youth – you put up with it while the men had a jolly good laugh at sexist jokes, and were made to feel as though you were in the wrong if you didn’t like it. Yes, sex between men was against the law – there was lesbianism gong on but it wasn’t taken seriously enough to be even considered – if there wasn’t a penis involved, it wasn’t sex anyway, was it? I can remember my aunties and mother asking themselves what lesbians did – they couldn’t work it out. I’m married (to a man) and it was just about impossible to just live together (early 70s). You had to pretend you weren’t, or pretend you were married.

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