I have never been a high-mainenance kind of gal.
What do you think my next sentence will say? 😂😂😂
It was this post that made me reflect on this topic…ha ha ha 😛
I think being high-maintenance and being difficult are related, no?
I tried to recall my younger days when I was much less mentally overwhelmed. I used to live out of a suitcase when I was a flight attendant and never seemed to worry too much about leaving something behind. Going out somewhere on a whim didn’t involve some major production, preparation or, you know, LISTS; I just grabbed my wallet and left. (This was before the smartphone days, even…)
I barely leave the house to go to the grocery store without double and triple checking I have all the little things that I *need* in case of a what-if situation…
- reading glasses
- pen/pencil and a small notepad
- coins (for the carts)
- coins/cash for coffee (if I stop somewhere, to avoid using debit and to finally use up the mountain of coins I have sitting around)
- charger (if it’s a longer trip)
- jacket/sweater (some stores are freezing especially after the a/c gets switched on)
- rain gear (because ugh…will it ever stop raining around here?)
- sunglasses (pfff, but if the sun does come out, like it did today, I can’t drive without them)
- points cards for all the various places I’m planning on visiting
- reusable bags (which I sometimes forget to take INTO the store)
- supplies if I’m on my period (argh)
- water bottle because I get thirsty and don’t want to spend money buying one
- lip balm (because dry lips are causing me discomfort and I’m a delicate flower now, apparently)
There are probably items I’m forgetting…
It’s kind of maddening.
Ask me if I still go camping with the family. (That would be a hard no.)
Going to the cottage? Sure I’ll go if there’s indoor plumbing. A shower is nice, even if it’s lake water that pipes up to the cabin. But not camping. They can sleep with the bugs without me, thankyouverymuch.
Maybe it’s an age thing. Maybe it’s an I’ve come this far and I know what I like and I don’t care what anyone says mentality that’s become more front and center in my life as I age.
Maybe it’s because for so long I’ve had to put my wishes, comforts and desires aside to tend to frantic toddlers and opinionated preschoolers for too many years. (Today I tend to be better equipped to ignore frantic tweens and opinionated teenagers but only because I know they are theoretically perfectly capable to fend for themselves and not trash/destroy/burn the house down.)
Nowadays, I know my limits and I know what causes me stress or anxiety. I have learned to pace myself, to put up barriers if needed, to seek out space and solitude if necessary and to pack, and bring, the kitchen sink if I want to. Hah. 🙄
So high-maintenance may be a term *some* people might use to describe me…although I am nowhere near those who truly are high-maintenance. Must I mention most celebrities? Especially the female ones? Or the ones whose first names begin with K? 😉
Having said all that, I’ll tell you something else.
I can be, and often choose, the less is more approach. Mainly because I am keenly aware that high-maintenance requires too much, um, maintenance. Which means more work for me. Ugh. 🙃
Also, high-maintenance people are often a bit obnoxious… (Surprise!) 😜
Tell me, have you noticed a shift in your own behaviour as you surpass the decades from the 30s to the 40s? Or from the 40s to the 50s and beyond? Do you consider yourself high-maintenance, or difficult? You don’t have to say if you don’t want to, but if you want to…I’m all ears.