I need to get this off my chest. I know I’m not the only one who has these challenges, and I hesitated if I should bother blogging about it all all. But you know what? I need some positive vibes here from you, or at least some commiserating… 🙄
So allow me to entertain you with a funny story first, and an exasperating one second.
First off, the girl child and her endless school lunches…OMG. What is it with some kids? She eats air for lunch, basically, which begs the question, WHY do I make her a school lunch?
So one day last week she asked to go to Subway with a friend at lunch recess. As of grade 6 they are allowed, with a note from a parent, to leave school property. I said yes, gave her some coins, and she went out with her friend to the local Subway across from the school.
When she came home she said she had a foot long sub. A FOOT long.
Not a half foot…do you understand how short my girl is? She is teeny tiny for an 11yo. And she refuses to eat my lunches I pack for her, even if I specifically ask her WHAT she wants to eats. She brings it home untouched, mostly.
But a foot long sub for a kid who’s 4 foot 3 inches… That’s some kind of crazy if you ask me. 🙃
Her request for today’s lunch: pie
Response from mom: denied* 😛
*There was no pie and pie is not lunch. However, school is done in 3 weeks and if she wants pie and there is pie maybe I’ll just give her freaking pie and write off the rest of the school year as futile in terms of nutrition. Who cares. 😂
Now about my teenager, that wonderful boy of mine who seems to have turned into some sort of creature I hardly recognize anymore.
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He texted me while I was in the shower this morning to never speak to him again because I didn’t wake him up or make him a full breakfast.
Scenario: I made breakfast for everyone who was up this morning like I do every morning. The boy wasn’t up nor getting up, so why bother? Every time I make him breakfast and he doesn’t show up until 20 minutes later and his egg is cold he throws it out.
I hate food waste. Also, food is expensive.
Note: waking up teenagers in this house does not guarantee an awake teenager or one that leaves the house on time for school. I have done it, this waking up teenagers, more often than I should, as I’ve blogged about here before. Sometimes, when he’s had a really late night of baseball or hockey, I wake him with a back rub. Because I love that boy, you know? No matter what, I do. ❤
But on regular, routine days? It doesn’t matter how many times I call, or what method I use to wake him up, he doesn’t make an appearance at the breakfast table until all the food had gone cold. And he’s late for the bus.
He has an alarm clock, we’ve had the talk on and off for months, and he still doesn’t get up.
If I parent him with punitive actions or some sort of consequences, he lashes out at me. ‘You’re a bully’ he says, or ‘you’re bullying me’.
I’m tired and he’s 14 and I quit. Get up, or not. Have breakfast, or not. Figure it out, sunshine. But this mom has officially quit.
PS: his11yo sister hasn’t been woken up since grade 5. She gets herself up, makes her own breakfast if I’m busy, and is out the door on time every day. Somehow she manages just fine.
Regarding the ‘never speak to me again’ comment: the boy needs a lift to dry-land training tonight (hockey). I wonder if he will speak to me when the time comes to get ready which would mean I would have to verbally respond…
I want to respect his request not to speak to him. He’s struggling with something and lashing out at me. But as far as I’m concerned, not speaking to him is an easy request to respect – it gives him a sense of power over himself (for lack of a better word) and realistically, he knows that this can’t go on for long. He is still a child and needs mothering, no matter how much he’s resisting.
So I will wait and see and respect the no speaking and then…probably take him to dry-land. He can go work out his negative energy with his hockey buddies at the gym.
Going to be an interesting evening tonight.
Thank you for listening.