Is getting all worked up a female trait? A mom trait? Or just a trait that some lucky people possess?
I have been told by some people that I get worked up.
I don’t deny this. But, I get the impression by the way they say this to me that it’s a characteristic they don’t necessarily approve of.
My question is this: has it occurred to them that maybe I have a reason to get worked up?
Or, that it’s possibly their fault for causing me to get all worked up? (They do have a knack for this talent on occasion…)
Blaming it on hormones is too easy. Saying this out loud will result in something getting thrown at their heads. 🙃
But seriously, this worked-up thing is getting me all worked up.
Case in point:
The other day we were having a chat about a sport situation. We’re in crossover season, where one sport is winding down and another is starting up.
If you’re a parent with kids in sports (or have been at one time) then you know that this is a family affair. Everyone in the household is impacted by the kid’s sport during the entire season, including pre- and post-season.
If there’s more than one kid, you may as well hire a secretary to keep you on track, because it can get quite complicated.
It gets very busy, is what I’m saying.
Here’s the thing:
No time is more stressful than try-out season.
There are many pieces to this try-out puzzle that have to fit just so, and sometimes, waiting around for decisions which you have no control over is challenging.
Then, as information starts to trickle in about so and so, and the grapevine becomes noisier, some people find themselves getting all worked up.
I’m not saying that this happens to me every time, I’m just saying I recognize the sentiment.
(I can see you rolling your eyes, stop it!) 😶
Anyway, my point is this:
Even if we know instinctively that getting worked up over a situation we have no control over is unhelpful, sometimes this exact reaction feels helpful (to me). It’s like letting steam out before perpetual explosion.
But, those who are worked up must keep in mind how it affects others, particularly if others are minors. You know, our prodigies. Our little superheros. They do not necessarily benefit by hyper, worked-up-like behaviour.
So, while some people can remain calm during stressful situations, others allow their brains to gear into overdrive. Interesting people like me, for example, might get a little worked up. 😁
So, when if this happens to me, I do this:
I clean something.
The other day, while letting an irritable situation work over in my brain, I swept the entire main floor of my house. Then I washed the seat pillows from the dining room, and cleared off all the kitchen counters.
I was fueled by the activity in my brain while waiting for answers that did not arrive.
Then came the epiphany: the outcome of getting worked up is a clean house.
Did you know this? 😊
Getting worked up has it’s benefits after all.